I've really been grappling with this situation and don't know where else to turn and since it does involve another board member (we'll just call him Jacks9Moon so as not to cause any undue embarrasment for him) i'll defer to the board's judgement . Ok , here's the deal , Jacks9Moon is getting married and i've been asked to participate as a groomsman but unfortunately i've already "participated" with the bride to be (if you get my drift) , leaving me in a very awkward position . Not only that , i have knowledge of several other groomsmen (including the best man) , "participating" with the little tramp ... err , excuse me bride to be . I'm sure the board can see my dilemna and i'll trust your collective judgement in this very , very awkward situation ...... i've truly searched my soul (and Emily Post) and just cannot decide what is proper ? ? ? Oh , did i forget to mention the lovely bride to be is pregnant ......